If your libido isn’t what it used to be, you’re not alone. But, just because you don’t have the same sex drive, doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun, fulfilled and satisfying sexual activities. This is an opportunity to change it up. Add some new moves, a new toy and maybe even some new foods.
Sometimes all you need is a little spice to add excitement. Literally. Certain foods help up your sex drive. Here are a few:
Foods to Improve your Libido
It’s high in zinc, known as the “ultimate sex mineral,” which has been shown to be a libido-lifting super sexy mineral, helping to turn you on and get you in the mood. Why the sex drive high? By blocking the enzyme that converts testosterone to estrogen, zinc increases testosterone levels in the body which, yes, is also a very good thing when it comes to the sex drive of women, too. You know what else is high in zinc? Oysters. Exactly. Ready for that new sexy lingerie?
Make sure you have breath mints ready, but garlic contains a nutrient called allicin, which helps to increase blood flow… everywhere, including the sex organs. When ingested by a man, garlic increases the body’s nitric oxide production, an essential component to a healthy erection. This might be why, after a hot date to an Italian restaurant, you’re even more turned on.
According to ancient Chinese belief, ants and Cordyceps (a rare mushroom that grows on the body of a caterpillar in the Himalayas) are effective sexual tonics. They both come in pill form from reputable Chinese Herbalists like Dragon Herbs - the secret weapon of many celebrities and athletes. Known as the "Herb of Kings," ants improve sexual function and increase virility and fertility while easing anxiety and stress (which is often to blame for low sex drive).
Anything that is high in L-Arginine, including dairy, pork, beef, poultry and seafood, as well as walnuts, cashews, pecans, almonds and barley. According to scientists from the Department of Urology and Nephrology at the Tel Aviv Sourasky Medical Center, the amino acid L-Arginine optimizes your production of nitric oxide, which increases blood flow in the muscles tissues.
What if YOU’RE not the one with the low libido, it’s your PARTNER?
It’s ok to address it. But don’t talk about it in the midst of a sexual moment - whether it’s a moment of good sex or a moment of low libido, it’s not the time. Instead, talk about it when you are both calm, sitting or laying together, without any other major stresses on your mind, and you are in a place where you both can be open and vulnerable. Don’t be aggressive, blaming or belittling. Don’t be offensive, defensive or offended. Talk in a way that shows that you care and that you want to help improve their sex drive, together, and be part of finding a solution. Say what you love so much about your relationship and that there are also areas that you think would help improve your connection even more. Don’t say that you are unsatisfied. Instead, say that you would love to improve what you already have, and go throw on some super-sexy lingerie!
Sex and sex drive can be areas of serious sensitivity. It can create insecurity and draw out triggers. It can also be a connector that brings you closer as you explore areas of vulnerability and share sides of you that might at first feel scary because they are new. As your walls drop and you explore yourself and each other, you will become closer, and your relationship will deepen.
Then… start cooking for him, and incorporating the libido-strengthening ingredients into the food. The stomach isn’t just the way to his heart, it’s the way to his hard-on.